The Unwritten Road

   Friendships are a tough topic to talk about because there isn't much out there about it. Well thats kinda a lie there is a bit out there but its all "how to make friends","friendship goals", but nothing out there is the "real" truth about friendship.
  Everyone has different definitions of what they would considered a friend or a best friend. What I consider a friend who is someone who is there for you through the good and bad. I don't have the best back story with friendships as I did have quite a few falling outs. Through this though I have learned a lot about trust, people and honesty and wouldn't change a thing. Each falling through has had its ups downs, and some way more difficult than others. My most recent falling through with a friend has been the toughest so far because I have known them for so long, but from this I learned who my true friends are.

Throughout my experiences over the past years, I've learned major lessons. Here are the top 5 things I've learnt when it comes to friendships.


1.  Communication
      People tell you this is important for any relationship and this is totally true. Communication is key, now with this day in age everything is written either through texting or some form of messaging.  Yes texting and emailing is communication, but take the time to call or meet up with the person. There is less likely to be a misunderstanding and you can talk about it and see if you are on the same page. Also communication is key if anything is bothering you. Yes I have lost a friend due to a misunderstanding. Instead of just talking about it, she got mad at me about what she thought and I wasn't given a chance to explain my story.
      With this day in age people hide behind a screen be it a computer or phone screen so they don't have to deal with their problems. People behind the screens are afraid to talk in person, allowing them to hide is what they feed off of.
      I believe that if me and my friend actually talked in person about the issue the friendship could have been saved.

2. Put in the effort
        Just like school work if you don't put effort in then how will you learn or grow. Now here comes the struggle that the effort has to come from both ends. You both need to be putting in equal effort for balance. If you find that you are putting in way more work then you need to question the friendship.
       This happened to me in my most recent falling out, I felt as if I was putting in all the effort. I was the one texting, calling, trying to make plans because I wanted to talk or hang out. Eventually I got fed up and stopped texting as often or calling to see if they would step up. They didn't it got to the point where there was weeks without communication. After talking to them about it I realized that I wasn't gaining anything from it and I was tired of being the one to put in the effort I felt as if I was a chore to my friend. I felt as if my friend felt like hanging out with me was a chore.

3. Be Yourself
       It might seem funny to some that i'm even putting this in the list, but its true. Whats the point of having friend if you can't be yourself, if they can't be with you when you got no make-up on and you chilling in your sweats and watching tv then who are they. The entire point of your friendship is that they know the real you and you can act yourself and be a real goof around them. I have found that is some friendships that i'm not my true self but this comes with time. You start to learn who you are and you learn who your true friends are at the same time.

4. Pay Attention
       From paying attention I mean pay attention to your gut feeling, or as I would like to say red flags.  Friends should be with you through thick and thin, and support you not matter what. Friendship is not a competition, they should not be trying to one-up you in everything or trying to make you feel insecure. If you start seeing these flags don't ignore it, do something.
       Again onion my recent falling out this happened a lot and it took me a long time to figure it out but hey at least I eventially learned. This friend no matter what one-uped me in everything. One tests her goal was to always get higher than me on a test (more than likely she did), school wasn't my strong suit so this wasn't very difficult. But when we would get our test marks back she would ask what I got then laugh when I told her because her mark was better. Also during games she would cheat to win or find some excuse if she lost. I started to realize the flags, and things didn't feel right and eventually I learned that was I her punching bag.
      I learned so much from this experience, TRUST YOUR GUT.

5. Not all friendships will stand the test of time
      Yes this is true, there isn't much to say except not all friendships are meant to be.

   Summer is the time of year where what some people would say I get lazy. I'm not lazy its just I don't wear as much makeup or even wear as often as I do throughout the year. I also find that I don't put as much heat on my hair and my go to outfits is a plain t-shirt and jeans or jean shorts with a pair of sunnies. What I like to do is add a little bit of color with my sneakers. I started seeing people wearing white canvas sneakers, I didn't want to be just like everyone else so I decided to combine 2 trends together. I decided to combine canvas shoes and ombre together and came up with my ombre sneakers. They are so easy to make and quite cheap. I'm not gonna lie I haven't taken them off my feet since making them.




- white canvas shoes (got mine at walmart $7)
- tie dye
- rubber gloves
- bucket
- water


    Firstly you need to remove the laces for the canvas shoes. Next you want to fill your bucket with water and submerge the shoes in the water for until they are wet.


    Prepare your die by following the directions on the package. Next submerge your shoes in the die, put the entire shoes in and leave it for about a min. Then take the shoe half way out and keep that in the die, then do the same thing for the tip of the shoe. This is make the ombre effect and the shoe will be lighter  at the heal and darker as you get to the tip. Remember it dries lighter than what it appears.

Recently I have been reaching for the same products when getting ready in the morning, so I thought that I would share what I am currently loving.




    Urban Decay Naked 2 pallete, the formula for these eyeshadows is amazing and its totally worth the money. The colors that I have been using the most is YDK (3rd last color) in my crease, using Bootycall (3rd color in) on my lid with Foxy(1st color) as a highlight on my brow bone and my inner corner.


   Victoria Secret fragrence mist in Summer Sun. The description of the scent is Caribbean Guava and Pineapple, the scent is a nice fruity, fresh and clean smell. I have been using this mist for months now, and it has become my signature summer scent this year.


     These sneakers I have been wearing since I have made them, I have a blog post coming up on them. They are nice to add to a bit of color to an outfit, most days I have on jeans or jean shorts with a plan t-shirt so this adds a little something to my outfit.

What is everyone else current favourites?

     The weather is getting warmer, and days are getting longer. This all means one thing SUMMER. Here is a quick and easy summer DIY that you can use to decorate your living space or your outdoors area.

What you need
- styrofoam balls
- paint (colors of your choice)
- paint brush
- string
- scissors
- string
- paper
- hot glue gun

Step One

    You will need styrofoam balls, paint and paint brush. What you want to do first is to paint your styrofoam balls and leave them to dry. Mine needed 2 coats so they would be vibrant and not extremely streaky.



Step Two

     I found a cone template online, I just google it. Or you can do ahead and make your own. SO just print out and cut the cone template and glue to together.

Step Three

    You will need your painted styrofoam balls, cones and glue gun. You want to attach the cone to the styrofoam balls. I found it easiest when I put glue on the inside rim of the cone and placed the styrofoam ball inside.


Step Four

      The last and final step. All you need is your snow cones from step 3, string, scissors and glue gun. Firstly cut the string the length you want your garland to be. Then glue the snow cone onto the sting with the glue gun.

  Add a bit of color to your room or garden with this quick and easy DIY. This DIY is very inexpensive also, most people have these items in their home or they can be purchased at a dollar store.



What You Need

-  7 paper bags (any color or just plain)
-  scissors
-  hot glue gun



Step 1
   
      Place your paper bag down so the bottom flap is on the table or floor. Take your glue gun and place glue in a T shape going half way up the bag. Make sure not to have any glue at the opening of the bag. Then place the next bag on top facing the same way. Repeat 6 times.



Step 2

Take your scissors and cut the bag so it makes a point at the top.


Step 3

Take your glue gun and make another T with glue. Then unfold the bags and glue the 2 ends together.

       

 Rewind about a week ago, I was walking the streets of central London on my way to Kensington Palace in lovely sunny weather. Now I'm back to reality in a place where its maybe 6 degrees and rainy. London has been a place that I wanted to visit for years, and I still can't believe that I was able to visit there. It might be because it was a fluke that I went because one day my cousin said to me of I really want to go to London, but none of my fiends want to go. My head turned on a swivel and before we knew it we were booking our flights and hotel. I booked this trip almost a year ago and its hard to believe that its been here and gone.
       London is exactly what I thought it would be full of history, architecture, tourists (lol), and friendly people. The only down side was the price. I would give anything to go back. We made a list of the places we wanted to visit and planned out days so we would go to the places in the same area. So we wouldn't waste time running all around central London. This also made it easier so if we knew the places we wanted to visit and if we ran out of time we could possible add it to another day. I was so amazed by the architecture, its nothing like I've seen before it was beautiful.


     Like look at Westminster Abbey its awesome, its a must see. It inside is just breathe taking, I can't even describe it I loved it. There is no picture taking inside, and trust me its hard to resist to take pictures of the inside its just breath taking with all the stain glass and architecture inside.

Don't you just love having a tan during the summer, it gives you a nice glow and a boost of confidence. Well its June and to be honest its been freezing I mean like 5C, come on warm weather. I decided if the sun won't come to me, I'll make it somewhat, so I turned to self tanner. Anybody that knows me knows that me and self tanner aren't friends because I either look like an Oompa Loompa or like I rolled in dirt. I have tried a ton of products like the Jurgen's self tanner booth the new and older formula, both left me orange. I would follow the directions and be streaky and orange. I was ready to throw in the towel and accept my ghostly appearance but I decided to give it one last shot with this product.


 This self tanner is idiot proof, trust me if I can do it anyone can. The mitt that comes with it helps a ton as it helps with the application, so your hands don't turn orange and it makes it easier to buff in the product. Also the color of the product has a little green tint to it which is scary at first but it just means that it won't be orange and as you apply the tanner you can see where you are applying the product which is great so you know you aren't missing spots.


I'm not gonna lie the first time I used it I was a little streaky but that was because I have never used a formula like it before. This product is becoming a staple for  me this summer and gives me a little boost of confidence that everyone needs. I will be repurchasing this product in the full size once I finish this travel size up.